The assumption, I suppose, is that the light bulb is changing for the better. Research appears to suggest that in the context of relationships, one of the strategies for improving how you’re getting along is to try to change your partner for the better. I, of course, don’t need changing so this came as a surprise to me.

Hypothetical as this will be, let’s imagine how you’d feel if your partner tried to change you and your behaviour. That’s ...

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