Here's how to negotiate for more space without hurting your partner.

u Be specific. Say, 'I need the afternoon to myself.' Simply saying 'I need space' sends confusing signals.

u Explain why more space makes you happy, so your partner knows it's not about him or her.

u Enjoy the space you take. Guilt defeats the purpose, says Barbara F. Okun, counseling psychology professor at Northeastern University.

u No secrets. Tell your spouse what you did and with whom when you were away.

u Don't get carried away. Too much space weakens your connection.

u Don't forget to schedule couple time and family time, too.