Do you know what one of the ugliest things you can say to someone is? Well, it turns out people hate being told that they’re being unrealistic.

And this makes perfect sense, right? Who would want to be told that they are lying to themselves.

It’s pretty much like you’re called an idiot… It’s like the other person is saying you’re so stupid that you can’t see the clear facts right in front of your face. You feel like a drug addict in denial when someone says you’re not confronting the truth and it hurts to hear.

But there are a couple of instances when you can tell these people to buzz off.

In fact, recent research shows that you are better off telling these negative Neds or Nancies to keep it to themselves when it comes to a couple special cases.

The 2 times to say “don’t kill my vibe”

1) When you didn’t sleep all that well

Research has shown that a low quality, short, or interrupted night of rest may not affect some people as harshly as others.

And who are these people? People who believe they got a good, deep, and refreshing night of sleep! This is regardless of how they really slept the previous night and the research shows these people think and perform better under such an illusion.

2) When you believe your spontaneous nature makes you Vincent Van Gogh.

A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that the simple belief that impulsive people were more creative was able to make such spontaneous people think more abstractly on tests given by the experimenters. This illusion of a link between creativity and impulsivity actually left those people better off!

So when your roommate is adamant that your neighbors must have ruined your slumber the day before you big interview, tune that negativity out.

Tell yourself you slept like a baby and sip your coffee with the confidence that you are running on a full tank of sleep for your big day.

And when it comes time to bring that whole project together that you’ve been putting off, assure yourself that your time spent doing anything else that came up first, was time well spent.

Sit back and let the creativity flow through your impulsive mind. This way, you can slap together a brilliant masterpiece the night before the deadline instead of guilting yourself like your friend Ned would have you do…

These are just 2 scientifically backed instances in which your own self-deception can turn into useful self-confidence. So don’t forget that there are certainly times when such misguided hubris may result in a big reality check…

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